This One Thing Is the Secret to Any Lasting Friendship

Image by Athena Pelton Family. Spouses. Kids. The lucky person who gets to prepare the mess formally known as taxes. These are all relationships in which we know work is required and there’s an equal expectation that the deal is, in ways small and forgettable or big and important, transactional. A give here, a take…

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Growing Up With a Mom With OCD

Ruth Chan is an illustrator who lives in Brooklyn with her boyfriend. Her comics tackle lighter topics like dogs and curry fish balls to heavier topics like grief and race. She writes and illustrates children’s books. For Cup of Jo, she also written about losing a pet and Lunar New Year. P.S. Taking care of…

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Toby and Anton’s Guide to Life

Children often see the world in cool ways, and I love hearing their pearls of wisdom. So! At bedtime last night, I asked my own kids — Toby, 11, and Anton, 8 — to reveal their pro tips… 1. What’s a good breakfast?Toby: Toast with butter is always satisfying.Anton: Frosted Mini Wheats plus Kashi Cinnamon Harvest….

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The Drawstring Chino Is The Pant For Our New Normal

Our comfort requirements have changed – and so has the chino. By Primer reader Christopher A. Like many office workers, I began working from home after the pandemic started. And despite academic theories about “enclothed cognition” and articles about how some people were wearing business casual to “get into work mode,” I’ve exclusively worn sweatpants…

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Have a Relaxing Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? We’re throwing Toby’s 12th birthday party. (Side note: 12?!?!) We got a photo cake, which is always a crowdpleaser. My dad is also visiting, which means that we will be watching this movie. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the…

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The Things I’d Do if I Wasn’t Afraid

Image by @des-nee on VSCO Editor’s Note: In this post, originally published in September of 2019, one writer is exploring what it would mean if we could reframe our approach to everyday fears. We hope you find Julie’s words as insightful as we have. Last spring, three Twin Cities chefs—all of them women—were announced as…

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A Case for Love Affairs

Just because I’m in a happy, monogamous, long-term relationship, that doesn’t mean I’m not engaged in several other love affairs… I’m involved in a love affair with my sweet barista, Michael, who tells me about his life and has followed the stories of my work sagas and kid stuff in a way that makes me…

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